Growing up with a self-absorbed, rejecting and critical parent can injure the child, causing emotional, spiritual and physical problems. You will also have to deal with these problems.
Understanding your symptoms
Are you in a state of constant alert, forever searching your surroundings for signs of potential danger?
Like something bad is going to happen… again?
Your mind flips endlessly through the painful memories of your childhood, flashing frightening images before your inner eye [...]
Traumatic experiences are often lost in time and concealed by shame, secrecy, and social taboo. – Vincent J. Felitti, MD
Exhausted, you fall in bed.
You stretch your aching body under the sheets and close your eyes. Waiting for relief…
But your mind won’t hush.
Thoughts, replays of conversations—real and imagined—start running through your head like a circus carousel.
A never-ending dialog with yourself. And your mom [...]
If someone asked you about your childhood, what would you say?
“I don’t want to talk about it,” or “There’s not much to say,” or “Nothing was wrong with my childhood”?
Perhaps you wouldn’t remember much even if you tried… except your mother’s icy face, your dad’s angry voice, or your uncle’s drunken laughter…
And your fear of being in this unsafe and dangerous world [...]
An early morning she opens the door and the sunlight softly embraces her body. Smiling, she puts sunglasses on and locks the door.
The birch tree in her driveway proudly waves its new green coat. The teasing sunlight sifts through its leaves and dances on the grass like a bunch of baby bunnies.
The cheerful chirping of birds welcomes a new day [...]
Do you like watching National Geographic?
Then you have seen animals playing dead in order to stay alive.
They drop down and freeze until the danger is over. Not the usual fight or flight reaction, wouldn’t you say?
I’ve seen it in a real life, and here’s the story [...]
You can’t sleep, tired or in constant pain.
Feeling tense and stressed, worried all the time. Anxious, expecting the worst.
Your pulse is faster than allegro vivace. Your thoughts are jumping like kangaroos through the arid Australian outback.
You can’t think or stay focused; constantly on edge.
Your crappy childhood still runs your life.
Will the wounds ever heal?
You want to scream [...]