Ever watched raindrops on a spider web sparkling in the summer sun? How light refracts in the prism of water beads, spilling out into hundreds of colourful beams.
The articles on life lessons are like that too. Caught in the virtual web they are waiting to be found. To share their wisdom gained throughout years of human experience.
Why do we bother reading them?
Because we are unique beings living unique lives. Similar in some ways, different in others. Lessons we need to learn are not the same, neither how we learn them.
What we share reflects valuable knowledge from the areas of life most significant for our personal growth.
Looking for some answers?
Let me share my most important lessons with you. They were crucial to my healing, health, and happiness.
- Be aware of who you are–your values, boundaries; needs, and dreams.
- Understand your feelings and learn how to respond to them. Consciously.
- It always takes two people to make stormy waves in a relationship. One sometimes is enough to rescue it.
- Keep an independent mind to make your own decisions. Your life is your responsibility.
- Compromise but do not offer yourself. Not for love, another person, or to a cause. It is unlikely to make anyone happy.
- Stick to what’s important to you, and let the rest go.
- Trying to change others only brings trouble into relationships. Focus on improving yourself instead.
- At the heart of all relationships lies relationship to oneself.
- Love is not enough. Each close relationship is a conscious, continuous and unconstrained investment.
- Appreciate your true friend. She loves you for who you are standing by your side in happiness and in grief.
- Your loving partner would never hurt you on purpose.Click To Tweet
- Inside your angry, controlling and critical mother lives an unloved child–disconnected and lonely. Desperate for connection and compassion.
- Ask for help when you need it. Fighting troubles on your own can turn struggle into suffering.
- Reach out to people. Be the one who keeps a connection alive.
- Take care of your body, it’s the home to your soul.
- Make a habit of being kind, generous, and compassionate. Leave the judging to troubled souls.
- Take care of your mental health. Turn down on stress. Turn up on positivity.
- Feeling ambivalent toward a challenging person is normal. Acknowledge your feelings, respond according to your values, and let go.
- Worrying can’t change the past, solve any problem or protect you from bad things in the future. But it can make you ill.
- Don’t try to be perfect. Your shortcomings make you unique.
- Strive to keep balance in everything. Avoid extremes at any price.
- When a rock blocks your path, stay calm. Panicking keeps you from thinking clearly. Use helicopter perspective. Observe and learn before making a decision.
- You are responsible for your own happiness. But not for the happiness of others.
- Change is only possible when you are ready to embrace it.
- Look at life through a prism of humor–it not only makes life easier. It can also save you.
- Appreciate what you already have. Turn a gratitude switch on.
- Nobody can make you happy because happiness can only be found within.
- Making decisions, don’t overthink. Better to make mistakes than later regret about missed opportunities.
- You have the right to feel sad and to feel angry.
- Know and defend your boundaries. Learn how to say no. Also to your children (start when they are small).
- Turn off your autopilot to live consciously. Life happens here and now.
- Make friends with your inner critic–she just tries to help.
- Talk less, listen more.
- Don’t let anyone control you–not your parents, boss, partner, or your child.
- Treat your relationship like a fruit tree–give it love, patience, plenty of nutrients, and a healthy fertiliser.
Enjoy the harvest.
Knowledge is Empowering
We compare other people’s experiences with our own. Looking for similarities and discovering differences.
Similarities help us to feel understood: “Yes, I know! I felt the same.” Differences bring our attention to important things we haven’t been aware of yet: “Wow, I never thought of it before. It feels (not) right. I want to know more about it.”
We learn something new, and knowledge is empowering.
And when the time is right, it becomes a part of our own experience too.
We absorb new knowledge when we are ready to internalise it. To make it our own experience.
Though we do not always act on it right away, it stays at the back of our heads ready to be rediscovered. And that’s good news.
Passive knowledge gives you an advantage. When the time is right, the brain will make connections. That’s your “aha” moments, remember?
Keep an open mind, and other’s experiences might save you from the pain of a few mistakes. Speed up your learning and show you new ways.
Unless you prefer testing everything on your skin.
Just kidding. 😁
What do you think? Let me know by leaving a comment below or writing directly to me here. What are your most important life experiences? What do you wish you knew before?