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How to Thrive While Healing from Childhood Emotional Abuse

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Dancing in the rain 2Imagine…

You wake up in the morning refreshed and energized, feeling that your life is real, not a dream.

You smile at your reflection in the bathroom mirror and say hello to a busy blue titmouse in a birdhouse outside. Then you enjoy your morning yoga routine while bathing in the sun flooding the room.

Feeling strong and capable of facing whatever challenges life throws your way. That, no matter what’s going to happen, you will be fine.

Sigh…

Instead, you wake up tired and overwhelmed. You drag yourself out of bed, log in to your Facebook account, and get stuck. One more day in a prison of the past.

Your childhood wounds are still bleeding. Living with the consequences of a childhood emotional abuse makes it hard to live in the now and find happiness.

Happiness isn’t for you. At least, not before you’re healed… right? [Read more…]

4 Proven Steps to Uncover Who You Really Are

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Identity“To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are.”
― Roy T. Bennett

“Yes, mother.”

You disconnect and stare hopelessly on the phone.

Your blood is boiling and so is your mind.

Argh.

Another Sunday with your mother.

All you want is to spend the day at home–just you, honey and your kids. [Read more…]

Back To the Future (or Let the Past Guide Your Heart)

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Josie cover “I’m coming home,” Josie chirped when Annabelle answered the phone. “What can I get for you, Mom?”

“And why would I need you, useless as you are?”

Mother’s words cut through the distance, piercing deep into Josie’s heart. Numb, she hung up and tried to steady her trembling hands.

She made herself a cup of tea, grabbed her ticket from the table and tore it into shreds. She sat in silence for a while sipping her favourite oolong, feeling nothing but pain. [Read more…]

5 Salient Steps to Cope With Your Difficult Mother

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Tell me something.

How often do you look forward to seeing your mum only to be stroked with the iron splints of her criticism?

Sigh.

“What took you so long? Now I’m late,” she greets you at the door.

You sprint into the kitchen to fill her fridge with homemade goodies you’ve spent hours conjuring up. She waits impatiently in the doorway, her eyes glued to your back.

“Leave it, would you? I must go.”

You swallow the humble pie and help your mother into the car. [Read more…]

An Open Letter to a Narcissistic Mother (Or the Evolution of Forgiveness)

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Old MamaLet us forgive each other – only then will we live in peace.
~L.N. Tolstoy

Mama is dying.

Slowly disintegrating into an unknown existence. First her mind, and now also her body.

All she remembers is her name.

And me, her daughter.

Sometimes I wish she were already dead to save her from pain and feeling embarrassed. She would be horrified by her looks, wicked games of the dying brain and the damn dependency on the others.

I know Mama too well. [Read more…]

Belittled and Bullied? Stop Blaming Yourself and Claim Back Your Life

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Emotional abuseDo you feel trapped?

Like sitting at the bottom of a deep well. No light. No life. No hope.

*Sigh*

He pushes your buttons with remarkable precision – he knows exactly where they are.

“You’re just like your mother!”, he barks.
“Tired? You?!!”, he rolls his eyes with contempt, “You make me laugh.”
“So you’re smart, ha?”, his face dangerously close to yours.

Then he plays the nice guy, to lull your vigilance and catch you off guard. With criticism, lies, and intimidation.

Just to suddenly strike you with his,“Now, what’s wrong?”

You try to comprehend your partner’s behaviour. Blaming yourself for the “wrong” questions and being “stupid”.

Sinking deeper and deeper into despair. [Read more…]

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