I grew up in a dysfunctional family, probably like you. Although I thought it was normal, everyone lived like us. When I realized that this was not true, I felt confused and did not know what to do. Here are my tips and advice to help you on your healing journey.
Tell me something.
How often do you look forward to seeing your mum only to be stroked with the iron splints of her criticism?
Sigh.
“What took you so long? Now I’m late,” she greets you at the door.
You sprint into the kitchen to fill her fridge with homemade goodies you’ve spent hours conjuring up. She waits impatiently in the doorway, her eyes glued to your back.
“Leave it, would you? I must go.”
You swallow the humble pie and help your mother into the car [...]
Or Why You Need to Let Go of Your Dream of an Ideal Mother
If you are struggling to come in terms with your story, and healing your wounds from a toxic relationship with your narcissistic mother is still a dream, then, this article is for you.
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Toxic Mother-Daughter Relationships
"Childhood is the happiest time in human life," or so they say.
What you've never understood is how feeling hurt and lonely, year after year, could possibly be the best time of your life. Neither could I…
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The Ultimate Guide for Daughters
“Sure, Mom… me too. See you soon.”
Sigh…
You hang up the phone and a tsunami of anxiety sweeps over you.
You look around, and the cosy kitchen feels suddenly distant and unreal, as if you’re looking through a dirty glass. So does your hand, still clutching the phone – is it even your hand? [...]
Or Why You Need to Let Go of Your Dream of an Ideal Mother
Do you find it difficult sometimes to cope with overwhelming emotions, flashbacks, unsafe impulses, symptoms of dissociation or insomnia?
You are not alone.
Feeling that you are drowning under the weight of emotional pain, you may need help to pull yourself up.
See what I found today browsing the internet – a list of distractive activities to help you to cope with intrusive trauma symptoms. You can read it here. But hang around for a minute! [...]
Do you know how to breathe?
I see you rolling your eyes — “Everybody knows that.”
After all, breathing is what we do from the moment we’re born.
Right?
Breathing is an automatic act controlled by an ancient part of our brains —the brainstem. Its primary job is to ensure our survival and make the body tick as effectively as a Swiss watch.
But do you know that breathing is one of the few bodily functions that also can be controlled consciously? [...]
“Yes, mother.”
You disconnect and stare hopelessly on the phone.
Your blood is boiling and so is your mind.
Argh.
Another Sunday with your mother.
All you want is to spend the day at home–just you, honey and your kids [...]
