The time will come when you will return to places that caused you pain in the past, but you will feel good. When emotional trauma heals, the scars remain, but they don't hurt.
I returned from a trip to Moscow (not Minnesota or Texas but Russia!) – the city where I grew up.
Your brain is more unique than your fingerprints, remember?
It builds new connections between brain cells your entire life. Then it weaves them into networks, constructing and reconstructing itself.
Sometimes it overreacts, making lightning-fast decisions based on obsolete data. The past becomes suddenly the present, and once more the pain overwhelms you, as if that horrible event was happening right now. [Read more…]
Do you like watching National Geographic?
Then you have seen animals playing dead in order to stay alive.
They drop down and freeze until the danger is over. Not the usual fight or flight reaction, wouldn’t you say?
I’ve seen it in a real life, and here’s the story. [Read more…]
Traumatic experiences are often lost in time and concealed by shame, secrecy, and social taboo. – Vincent J. Felitti, MD
Exhausted, you fall in bed.
You stretch your aching body under the sheets and close your eyes. Waiting for relief…
But your mind won’t hush.
Thoughts, replays of conversations—real and imagined—start running through your head like a circus carousel.
A never-ending dialog with yourself. And your mom. [Read more…]
If someone asked you about your childhood, what would you say?
“I don’t want to talk about it,” or “There’s not much to say,” or “Nothing was wrong with my childhood”?
Perhaps you wouldn’t remember much even if you tried… except your mother’s icy face, your dad’s angry voice, or your uncle’s drunken laughter…
And your fear of being in this unsafe and dangerous world.
Scared and sad, you had no one to talk to. No one who would listen and understand. [Read more…]
You can’t sleep, tired or in constant pain.
Feeling tense and stressed, worried all the time. Anxious, expecting the worst.
Your pulse is faster than allegro vivace. Your thoughts are jumping like kangaroos through the arid Australian outback.
You can’t think or stay focused; constantly on edge.
Your crappy childhood still runs your life.
Will the wounds ever heal?
You want to scream. [Read more…]
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